My family is expecting a baby soon and we’re being bombarded with cultural information from family
  • "May Allah Ta’ala grant your child strong faith and good health, and make him/her the coolness of your eyes.

    If is often difficult for people to differentiate which acts are prescribed by the Sacred Law, and which ones either stem from culture, or a misunderstanding of the Sacred Law. This is why one must consult the opinions of the scholars of one’s school of thought, as even within the tradition, there are differences of opinion.

    If an act is obligatory (wajib), it must not be downplayed or ignored, and on the other hand, if an act is recommended (mustahabb), it is good to follow if one wishes, but it should not be over-emphasized until it becomes a pressure on the parents of the newborn.

    First Things First: Give Thanks and Be Content

    When virtuous acts to be performed after childbirth are recounted, the focus is often only on recommended rituals, however a deeper and more essential dimension is often forgotten: showing gratitude and contentment.

    When a child is born, the parents and family should give thanks to Allah Most High for the gift He has bestowed on them, and that everything went better than it could have. They should recognize that this baby is a trust from Allah, not something that they own.

    Hence, from that day begins their duty to ensure the best for the child. They will be questioned regarding whether they fulfilled the child’s needs, not only physically and socially, but spiritually as well.

    They should also be content with Allah Most High’s decree regarding the gender and condition of the child, and show their love equally in all cases. They should also announce the birth with the same happiness and thanks to others, and others should congratulate them, also regardless of the gender or other features of the child. [Tuhfa al-Mawdud, Ibn al-Qayyim]

    A mentality of gratitude and contentment, combined with a sense of sacred responsibility, should be the backdrop that provides context and meaning for the virtuous acts which follow."